-jam- Expectations

Today I learnt something. An important lesson. A painful one.

As the title of this post suggests, its all about expectations.

“What’s there to learn about expectations?” you ask. Here’s my answer given below.

Sometimes, expectations are things that set us up for failure!(Sometimes…) Expectations are limits and benchmarks we set for ourselves and the people around us to live and perform by. And what happens when expectations are not met? Well, a variety of things will happen!

One things for sure, you will not be happy when expectations are met! Let’s imagine that you, a super nice person, does your friend a huge huge favour. You go all out to help them even to the extent of putting yourself on the line. And he/she doesnt even bother to say a word of thanks! Would you get pissed off? I know I would. And where would this feeling of irritation come from?

Expectations! You’re absolutely right!

Or lets look at another situation. Let’s imagine you’re going on a date. You believe in ‘going dutch’. However, to unknown to you, the lady expects the meal to be paid for - by you. Let’s also imagine that you’re the funniest guy ever, ok maybe you ARE very funny, joking and laughing and poking fun. Basically having a whale of a time. Then when the bill comes, you look at her and say “50 divided by 2 is 25″. What do you think will happen? Doesnt really take a genius to guess huh?

Getting my drift? Expectations may be the very thing that causes majority of the misunderstanding today. Expectations may be that wedge in your relationship! So, next time, before you blow your top or get irritated, ask yourself this. “Am I expecting too much?” And if you are, take a step back, give your partner a breather and take things slow.

Life will be so much more bearable, maybe even blissful.