Random thoughts out loud…

Someone dear said this to me recently…

“Love shouldn’t be always about pleasing someone. If you have to keep watching what you say, watching what you do and remembering to do this and that, then maybe it isn’t love that you have. Sure you can hope that the other person will change, you can pray that things will get better after you get married but the fact is that they dont’t. Things usually go downhill after you get married! Imagine having to please that someone for the rest of your life! Doesn’t seem that easy anymore does it?”

Somehow, logically speaking, it does make sense. Love should be about loving someone for who they are, not how we wish them to be. Love shouldn’t revolve around expectations, love shouldn’t be measured by the number of sweet things you do for one another.

Love should be simply, sweet, pure and innocent.

Then again, it is hard not to expect anything isn’t it? Afterall, love has been commercialised, right? Valentines Day, birthdays, anniversaries, christmases. We all do expect some sort of present don’t we? I mean who wouldn’t want to be showered with ‘gifts of love’, ‘thoughts of kindness’ and ‘materials of extravagence’? It is a vicious cycle then, as I see it. Love is.

If only life could be more simple when it came to love. x+y=x+y. If only…

signing off for now.
p.s. watch out for my next post… many many beautiful flowers from Holland! trust me, you’ll love them!